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Chastity, Marriage and Family Life
Try to realise that God has concern for all His children and that He is Himself looking after all the dear ones in your family. Try not to worry about them, and the more you are devoted to your meditations, the more help you will be to all of them.
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I appreciate your kind sentiments for the welfare of your brothers and sisters. You may please note that the gracious Master-Power extends feasible help and protection for the near relations and friends of the dear ones who are accepted and put on the Holy Path. You may convey my Love to them and encourage them to repose their hopes in the gracious Master-Power working overhead.
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I am sorry to find that you were robbed and are unhappy over your family conditions. As mentioned to you in my last letter of 11 November, please try to stay aloof from the discord and strife that your family has amongst themselves. You may pray for them and their sickness without letting them disturb your peace of mind, which is not conducive to good meditations. The gracious Master-Power extends feasible help to the near and dear ones of a devoted disciple. I appreciate your kind sentiments for your family whom you wish all good luck. Kind hearts are invariably blessed with Divine Grace.
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Please read carefully the booklet ‘Seven Paths to Perfection’ for helping you to weed out all imperfections and replacing them with ennobling virtues. Lustful dreams resulting in loss of semen can be overcome by having self restraint in chastity of thought throughout the day. Thoughts precede the actions and as such the thought pattern of the initiate should be watched. Also, you should say some prayer before retiring and sweetly keep repeating the Sacred Charged Names, and remembering the Master. If you sleep in this relaxed mood, no further disturbance will overcome you in this way, with His Grace and protection.
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Loss of vital fluid in sleep state can be avoided by having a light meal in the evening and also watching the thought patterns during the day and evening. Thoughts create impressions in the mind, which seek release in sleep when the attention slips down into the body. These should be recorded on the diary forms. If you are not sensually affected by looking into your wife’s eyes, then there is no objection to it.
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It is good that dear … (wife) is now living with you at … , and that you are able to be of help and encouragement to each other on the Path Godwards. You are not to discuss together your Inner Experiences, which is entirely a matter between you and the Master.
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I note the desire of you and your wife to have a baby. The Spiritual Conduct of the parents do attract a similar soul to them. My blessings are with you.
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You state that you are unemployed at present, and are feeling lost and lonely. It would be better for you to return to dear (husband) at … and strive to prove him a good wife. It is due to the evolution of past karma that persons with varying temperaments are brought together in the Sacred Bonds of Holy Matrimony for the liquidation of their give and take. All efforts should be made for cementing the relationship. You should try and be more obedient and serviceable to your husband. Loving devotion and respect for each other’s sentiments will bring in more of right understanding and harmony. You are both dear to me and I wish for you both to be happy together and help each other to know God and to fulfil the Highest Aim of man’s life. My blessings are with you.
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You may rest assured that the friends and relations of the initiates do receive help from the gracious Master.
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I am glad for your dear mother who has decided to be initiated into the mysteries of the beyond. Please convey my Love to her and encourage her to write to me all about her welfare.
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Chastity is life and sexuality is death. While I sympathise with you in your present situation with your husband, you should continue to meet with your obligations in as detached a manner as is possible – you should inform him on your own behalf in a loving manner that the vital fluid which he loses each time is extremely harmful not only for his Spiritual and mental health, but also to his physical health. If, however, he cannot stop all at once, he should in his own interests try and practice more self restraint. With your loving help and cooperation, he will be successful in this and to some extent, safeguard his physical health. Your advice to make use of the … was appropriate. The body is the temple of God and should be made a fitting instrument to manifest the God in man and not be degraded to the practice of sensual pleasures.
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Unfortunately, very few people have the right understanding as to the importance of maintaining the chastity of life. It is because man is not chaste that he is under the domination of other vices such as anger, greed and attachment. If he were to control his sensual appetite, the other vices would gradually drop away. So chastity is the key not only to the Spiritual Life but also to success in every other field of endeavour. The pity it is that the very people who could help their fellow men, such as doctors and the clergy, are themselves in the grip of sexuality and are hardly likely to recommend the practice of that which they themselves are a prey to. To help your husband gain the right understanding of the need to lead a chaste life, you should request him to read the English version of a Satsang that I have entitled ‘Chastity and Forgiveness’ which may be found in the January, 1968 issue of Sat Sandesh magazine. Having gained this right understanding, he could talk in a fatherly way to your son, so that they may have the opportunity at their early age to realise how important it is to maintain the chastity of life and the benefits that can accrue from retaining the vital fluid in the body.
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I am glad that one of your sons has taken an interest in the teachings of the Master and is studying the Sacred Books. You may encourage them all to study the Sacred Books by holding Satsang in your home, if it meets with your husband’s approval. Whenever the boys are home from college on vacation, they may perhaps like to read from the Master’s books at the Satsang meetings. In this way, your lady friends may also like to join you and grasp more of the theoretical side of the teachings, which precedes practice. A short meditation period can be included before or after the Satsang and all can enjoy the Divine Radiation from the charged atmosphere. My Love and blessings are always with you. Please convey my Love to your husband, sons, daughter and lady friends. I shall be glad to hear from them at any time.
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You should continue to meet with your obligations towards your husband in as detached a manner as is possible. The relationship between husband and wife is sacred and nothing should be allowed to come in between. Your loving patience and cooperation will help him to awaken to the higher expression of life in due course. My best wishes are with him.
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You should exhibit more of respect, patience and loving tolerance for your husband as God has united you both in marriage, which is a sacrament.
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You should consider yourself as a trustee for your child and love him with a more detached and serene manner. As also please refer to my latest message since released on the Birth Anniversary of my Master.
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When you feel overtaken with judgement of your mother, you should try to search about your own self. You will overcome this failure.
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I am sorry for your family affairs when your husband does not cooperate with you. It is due to the evolution of some past karma that persons with varying temperaments are blended together in the bonds of matrimony for the liquidation of their karma. You are advised to be more calm, patient and tolerant in face of harshness. Such like passing phases of trials and tribulations come up as a reaction of past karma and as such should be treated in the like manner. You may consult dear … in this behalf and act accordingly. My Love and blessings are with you.
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I appreciate the selfless help which dear … and … have given you in solving your marriage problems. In fact the disciples of the Master should be ever prepared to help fellow seekers after Truth in all their affairs.
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You may nurse your son as long as you consider it necessary.
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I am sorry to learn that your husband has gone back on the promise he made at the time of your reunion that he would not make dear … eat flesh. You have acted rightly in politely refusing to feed your son on eggs. Please follow the path of righteousness and resign yourself to the Supreme Will in all humility. My best wishes are with you.
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You should be more obedient and serviceable to your husband which will enable you to win him. Love and humility surmounts all troubles whatsoever. Please convey my Love to him.
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I appreciate your loving and dutiful attitude towards your dear husband. An attitude of serene detachment from within, yet attending to one’s legitimate duties carefully, considering oneself to be an obedient servant and trustee of the Master is the central theme of the Sacred Teachings of the Master. Your steadfastness and obedience will help to win him round to you in due course of time, with the Grace of the Master.
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You need not bother about your husband but try to serve him with more of devotion which shall enable you to win him to your side in due course. Please convey my Love to him.
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Marriage is a sacrament and means the selecting of a companion for life to stand by in weal or woe. If you and dear … have decided to enter into matrimony and you can afford to do so, there is no objection in your marrying. Married life is no bar to Spirituality if you live according to the scriptures. You should try to come up to the required standard of chastity by mutual understanding.
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As regards your attitude towards your dear parents, you may please note that your duty is to be humble, polite and sweet outwardly and at heart. Everybody is free to choose his/her course of faith and action which is chiefly determined by past karmic evolution. You should try to exhibit and inculcate more of loving humility which will be more effective to prove your greatness and that of the Holy Path on which you have been put. You do owe them some parental debt which can best be repaid by service and loving devotion. Please convey my Love to them.
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As regards your (family) visiting you, you should be more careful and considerate about your Spiritual Obligations. You can seek their loving cooperation in this behalf in all politeness when they would feel obliged to accede to your humble request with the Grace of the Master. Please convey my Love to them.
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(Question regarding actions done to provoke sexual desire, spiritual harm to female through her own orgasm and danger, spiritually, of sexual desire between couples who are married). All these questions relate to failures in chastity and any concentration on any aspect as stated by you, is likely to bring harm than any good. You should please note that mind is the inert force yet driven and canalised by intellect when the sense organs are made to function for gratification. It is the Inner Urge of the mind lying latent which arouses the intellect to seek enjoyment in sense objects, and unless the reservoir of this subconscious mind is not depleted of carnal desires and passions, by prolonged discipline and meditations, it is difficult to overcome the lower pulls. Desire is the root cause of all suffering. The listening of the Holy Sound Current with rapt attention and practising prolonged meditations on Divine Light shall bless you to rid of these desires. Self control leads to True Happiness. Like a bird, desire finds a place while perching in the senses, seizing the thoughts, polluting the intelligence, finally brings ruin to the Spiritual Aspirant into the mire of degradation. A pleasure which is bitter at the beginning but sweet at end is worth our cherishing. You should try to imbibe these truths in all earnestness to arrive at definite conclusions for adaptability.
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I am sorry for your dear mother. You should be more loving, patient, and considerate for her service which will bless you with Inner Peace and Harmony. A sick person usually gets more annoyed and irritated. The gracious Master-Power also blesses the near relations and friends of the initiates. Please convey my Love to her.
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Children at the tender age of five or six can learn the technique of listening to the Holy Sound Current, which can be granted by the Master. Adults of over 16 years of age can be initiated – both with the prior sanction. Disciplined parents bring up zealous Spiritualists.
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There are various views about the entering of the soul in embryo during pregnancy. There are hundreds of contacts, but pregnancy takes place only in rare cases. It is, therefore, quite rational that pregnancy takes place only when a soul enters the embryo. The soul has some consciousness in that and lives on the bliss of God afforded to him there; she loses that bliss at birth.
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The relatives of initiated persons do get help from the Master-Power in proportion to the Love that the initiates have for the Master and their relatives have for the initiates. Even the souls that have left the physical plane, get feasible help in the manner indicated above.
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Marriage is a sacrament and means the selecting of a companion for life to stand by in weal or woe. Besides it is in accordance with the reaction of past karma when the dear ones are blended together in the Sacred Bonds of matrimony for the liquidation of their mutual give and take.
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As regards your marriage, you may please note that marriage means taking up a companion in life on earthly sojourn for weal or woe and both of the couple should reach God. It is no harm to Spirituality if conducted according to the Scriptures.
The very many difficulties encountered by you should be sorted out carefully and placed in order of priority. You can forget all about the past and work in the living present by careful planning and execution. Every day brings in ample chances for success and Spiritual Progress. If you will make the best use of present time, future will take its own care. My Love and blessings are always with you both.
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It would not be advisable to live together as husband and wife by the initiates unless they are legally married. It amounts to adultery.